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5 REASONS CELEBRITIES SHOULD EMBRACE THE ‘B’ WORD

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LGBT visibility in Hollywood and the entertainment world is at an all-time high. Not only in fictional characters but also due to out and proud celebrities. Celebs like Caitlyn Jenner, Ellen Page, and Ricky Martin are announcing their gay, lesbian, and trans identities on magazine covers and in keynote speeches at LGBT galas. Being LGBT in Hollywood is becoming less and less of a taboo – unless you’re bisexual.

Unlike the gay and lesbian, and now trans, communities – bisexual people don’t have the same visibility. There are celebrities who exhibit bisexuality in their dating and love lives, yet many apparently have a hard time saying the ‘B’ word.

Recently, Kristen Stewart said she isn’t hiding her sexuality in an interview with Nylon. “Google me, I’m not hiding,” Stewart said. After dating long time boyfriend Robert Pattison, Stewart is now with a woman. Miley Cyrus and Raven-Symoné are two other celebs who have shown interest in more than one gender but who have chosen to remain label-less. While the draw of not wanting to be labeled is enticing, it perpetuates the invisibility of bisexuality and of bi people. Clearly, the ‘B’ in LGBT needs better PR.

Here are five reasons celebrities should use the B word:

1. An invisible majority

First and foremost, it creates visibility. Despite the fact that bi people are the majority of the LGBT community, bisexuality has continually gotten the short end of the stick. In TV and film,bisexuality is scarcely seen (especially bi male characters). Even when they are on screen, most bi characters fall into an evil villain trope or have over sexualized roles. In order to diversify perceptions of bisexuality, we need out and proud celebrities who are not afraid to announce they are on ‘Team B.’

2. Reading is fundamental – so is education

You’re not going to learn about a community if you don’t even believe it exists. The lack of bi visibility has perpetuated ignorance about bisexuality. In this information-less vacuum, mistaken stereotypes about bi people abound. According to popular culture, bisexuality is “just a phase,” bi people are all “promiscuous,” and anyone who identifies as bi is merely “confused.” The more people in the public eye come out as bisexual, the harder it is for the public to hold on to these false beliefs about bi people. Gaining that bisexual visibility leads individuals to educate themselves.

3. Socially, Bisexually, Aware

It’s hard to imagine that any gay or lesbian celebrities would be asked if they were “practicing homosexuals.” That’s because no interviewer would dream of using such archaic language in reference to someone’s sexuality. But that’s exactly what happened to bi celebs Alan Cumming andAnna Paquin when they sat down with TV legend Larry King. Bi-ignorant questions like that wouldn’t be asked if King was socially, bisexually, aware.

4. It helps bi people

According to dozens of studies which have come out in the last year, bi people face greater stigma than gay and lesbian people and are therefore more often victims of discrimination, resulting in greater inequality and more social ills affecting bi people. Few are aware of this problem and even less are actually doing something about it. When public figures use the ‘B’ word, they are using their powerful voices to spread awareness that bisexuality is real, common, and compatible with living a fulfilling life. That kind of visibility can shift public opinion, inspire people to be more accepting of bisexuality, and improve the lives of bi people everywhere.

5. Bisexual youth need role models

When the only LGBT role models available to today’s youth come from the gay, lesbian, and trans communities, it leaves bi youth feeling left out, only able to partially relate to those experiences. Out and proud bisexual celebrities help bi youth to know that they are not alone.

Given that bisexuality is even more common than homosexuality, there is a huge discrepancy between the percentage of the population that is bisexual and the tiny fraction of celebrities who identify as bi.  This makes me wonder – who else out there is secretly bisexual? Let’s hope more of our favorite celebs come to understand the significance of using the ‘B’ word. Next time you hear someone skirt around the identity when asked about their romantic history with more than one gender, ask yourself “could this person be bi?”

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WHY DO BISEXUAL WOMEN SMOKE SO MUCH WEED?

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Dr. Margaret Robinson, a research scientist at the Ontario HIV Treatment Network is trying to figure out the reasons behind a proliferation in studies that show high rates of bisexual women using marijuana. Through focus groups and one-on-one interviews with women in Toronto, Dr. Robinson is learning about the behavior and has published them in the peer-reviewed journal Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity.

She found that bi women face stigma as well as social exclusion and that contributes to the drug use. There is a common feeling isolation from multiple groups about both their gender and sexual orientation. Some of the initial reasons that bi women said they use pot is to relieve anxiety and manage pain. But, other reasons specifically co-related to their bisexuality.

The women spoke of rejection from hetero and lesbian peer groups, and some talked of being “sandwiched” between the two communities. According to a 2000 National Alcohol Survey nearly two-out-of-five, or 38 percent of bisexual women reported marijuana use in the last year compared to only 5 percent of straight women and just over 20 percent of lesbians. Another recent study of a representative sample of U.S. college students found that bisexual women were nearly three times more likely to have used cannabis than their heterosexual or lesbian counterparts.

“My concern isn’t with bi women using cannabis so much as it is with what’s prompting the high rates of cannabis use,” Dr. Robinson said in an interview with The Daily Beast. Other anxieties for bisexual women included the pressure to “pick a side” of being either lesbian or heterosexual. As far as bisexual men, there are some studies that show bi men smoke more than their heterosexual counterparts, but their sexual orientation doesn’t have as much of a noticeable impact on their use, when compared to women.

“The big difference, I think, is that bisexual women are exposed to sexism as well as biphobia and homophobia,” Dr. Robinson said. Dr. Robinson suggests that bi women may need better “skills for coping with stigma, stress, and anxiety,” but she does not necessarily argue that bi women need to cut back on their cannabis use. She is worried, however, about the women in her study who do want to smoke less but were “ridiculed” by support groups when they asked for help.

“Bisexual women aren’t treated with respect, which is the broader problem overall,” Dr. Robinson said.

NEW BOOK SPECULATES ON WHITNEY HOUSTON’S BISEXUALITY

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A new book just out about Whitney Houston’s troubled daughter Bobbi Kristina Brown purports that Houston’s bisexuality was real, as all the rumors speculated while the superstar was alive.

The book is called, “Bobbi Kristina: The Deadly Price of Fame,” and it is written by Ian Halperin. It talks about Bobbi turning to drugs and suicidal tendencies at age 14 and how her mother and father, Bobby Brown, were not around her very much to keep her grounded.

The book blames Whitney’s distractions on Robyn Crawford, who was an openly gay marketing consultant. Crawford met Houston when she was only a teenager and the book claims that is when the strong relationship generated between them.

Bobby Brown told the author that Whitney decided to marry to hide her bisexuality.

“The media was accusing her of having a bisexual relationship with her assistant. In Whitney’s situation, the only solution was to get married and have kids,” Brown is quoted in the book as saying.

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BIS SPREAD THE WORD AT L.A. PRIDE

The 45th Los Angeles Pride Festival continues Sunday, and bi folks are very visible this year!

The LA chapter of amBi has a huge contingent in the parade (last year, they won an award for best float).  They are carrying two large bi flags, totaling 90 feet in length.  Their festively decorated flatbed features hot men and women dancing under balloon arches and disco balls.  BuzzFeed’s The Try Guys even joined amBi for the parade!

If you can’t catch up with the bis at the parade, feel free to stop by the two booths that are being run by leaders in the bisexual community.

Near the entrance, you’ll find the Los Angeles Bisexual Task Force booth, where they are selling great purple shirts that say “Love Beyond Gender.” Among the leaders talking to the masses about bisexuality are Faith Cheltenham, president of BiNet USA, as well as Mimi Hoang and Tara Avery from the Task Force.

Then, further on down the line, there’s the Bisexual.org booth run by members of amBi LA. They’ve become famous for their signature Bi Kissing Booth and their positive, upbeat outreach. They are drawing more crowds than the muscle studs next door offering free hugs. A spin of the wheel could land you some great prizes or a kiss by both a guy and a girl (preserved for posterity with a photo).  People love it!

To top it all off, Nathaniel from amBi San Diego towered above the crowd on stilts and made sure that the bis were visible to everybody.

The events continue Sunday through 11 p.m.

SAME-SEX MARRIAGE IS LEGAL IN THE U.S., WHAT NOW?

I woke up last Friday morning to a text telling me same-sex marriage had been legalized. I got on Facebook and already half my friends had rainbow overlays on their profile pictures; my newsfeed was awash in rainbow flags; my aunts and others had reposted photos from their first commitment ceremony; and the whole world seemed to be celebrating. Over the weekend, everyone I knew kept saying things like “love has won” and had an extra bounce in their step. Everyone was rightfully thrilled that the United States had finally legalized same-sex marriage.

Through it all one tiny article popped up on my feed that stood out from the rest, one little crack in my Facebook armor. It was posted by a Mormon relative, it was a quiet article, and it sounded like the last gasp of the opposition. The article was about Alabama Supreme Court Chief Justice Roy Moore petitioning the Supreme Court to overturn its decision. It wasn’t all fire and brimstone, just the same tired arguments. Still, it was enough. That crack sent me spiraling down the rabbit hole of the internet and reading all the latest arguments by the opponents of same-sex marriage (mostly variations on old canards).

I read about how we’ve supposedly opened the door to pedophiles, bestiality, and hell on earth in general. I read about how an increasingly permissive, supposedly “sissifying”, or “corrupted” world has led the youth of today astray. I read way too many articles about how same-sex marriage will “damage” children or that marriage is exclusively about procreation. I read a few articles arguing that marriage has nothing to do with the state and should be done away with all together, that people would rather not have marriage than allow same-sex marriage.

All in all, it was an odd afternoon for me. Of course, I know there isn’t universal support for same-sex marriage and that the whole world isn’t celebrating with me, but that’s different than immersing myself in the opinions of the other for an afternoon. Sometimes I worry that it’s so much fun to bask in that rainbow glow of victory on our Facebook feeds that we allow ourselves to forget how many people are still fighting this decision. Consider Roe v. Wade, a case that seemed to have answered the question of abortion before I was born, but here we are still talking about access, conditions, and repeal decades later. I honestly don’t think same-sex marriage will face the same legal challenges as abortion, but I think that general acceptance and support will still be a long time coming.

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As the initial glow faded, many of my friends began asking us to remember that in the midst of this celebration there is still homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, discrimination, and violence. These things will continue even with same-sex marriage. It’s easy to forget that many challenges still face LGBT people and that total equality may remain a long way off. We still need to fight for the universal inclusion of sexual orientation in anti-discrimination laws, for better enforcement of hate crime legislation, for programs to aid thousands of homeless LGBT teens who have been callously abandoned by their families, for the broader acceptance of LGBT rights in fundamentalist and evangelical churches, and so much more. Plus, let’s not abandon our LGBT neighbors in countries where they have yet to make the strides we’ve made so far here.

It’s easy to forget that there are people out there who don’t think like us or like those in our immediate circle. Safe spaces are important, but it is also important to occasionally leave that bubble and expose ourselves to the broader world. So, go forth and Google. If you haven’t lately, I implore you to see for yourselves what others are saying about this and other issues. Celebrate the victories, but please don’t think that the LGBTQIA community no longer needs activists or allies. We need every one of you more than ever.

10 THINGS AMY WINEHOUSE SAID ABOUT BEING BISEXUAL

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A touching new documentary “Amy” looks at many aspects of singer Amy Winehouse, but skirts over her bisexuality.

Winehouse, who died at the age of 27, probably due to accidental alcohol poisoning, was beautiful, carefree and troubled.

If you didn’t know about her yet, you will fall in love with her after seeing this film. If you’re already a fan, you’ll fall in love with her all over again.

Filmmaker Asif Kapadia didn’t see her sexuality as an important part of Amy’s life, but I disagree.

So, If you see the doc this weekend and want to know more about the talented performer, here are some things she (and those who knew her well) said about her bisexuality:

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  1. “I find women very satisfying,” Winehouse said in February 2010.
  2. “So what? I like girls as well, I’ve had relationships with women but that doesn’t mean I don’t still love Blake,” Winehouse said, hoping to get back with her ex.
  3. “I don’t care what people think about me being bi—I do what feels good!”
  4. Winehouse confirmed that she had a girl crush on “X Factor” judge Cheryl Cole.
  5. “There’s nothing restrained about Amy’s sexuality,” a close (female) friend said about the singer. “Most women can appreciate another woman’s beauty but Amy definitely takes that to the next level.”
  6. Winehouse put sexy girl tattoos on her body, saying, “I like pin-up girls. I’m more of a boy than a girl.”
  7. She wrote her song “Addicted” about being with a girl and sharing a joint – and not wanting the girl’s boyfriend around.
  8. On vacation at St. Lucia, she hooked up with girls and broke up a lesbian couple when one found her in bed with the other. Amy asked to join in for a threesome.
  9. On the same vacation, she made out with a girl on a hammock.
  10. Amy’s longtime roommate was bisexual pop singer Neon Hitch.

Famous bi celebrities

Ke$ha

(born Kesha Rose Sebert on March 1, 1987) is an American singer, rapper, and songwriter. In an interview with Seventeen magazine, pop star Ke$ha made it known that she is attracted to both men and women. “I don’t love just men. I love people. It’s not about a gender. It’s just about the spirit that exudes from that other person you’re with.”

(Born Christopher Breaux; October 28, 1987), is an American singer-songwriter from New Orleans, Louisiana. Ocean’s early career was as a ghostwriter for artists such as Brandy, Justin Bieber, and John Legend. His 2012 debut album, Channel Orange, earned Grammy acclaim. Ocean became one of the first major African-American music artists to announce that he had fallen in love with someone of the same sex, notable because the music scene is known for homophobia.

born Destiny Hope Cyrus on November 23, 1992) is an American singer, songwriter, and actress. Her father is country singer Billy Ray Cyrus. Miley became famous as a teen idol after starring in the Disney Channel television series Hannah Montana. Since then, she has had five number-one albums on the U.S. charts.

At age 14, Miley came out as bisexual to her mother, but her sexuality only made international headlines in 2015. Miley Cyrus runs a non-profit called Happy Hippie that advocates for homeless and LGBT youth. As part of her work for LGBT youth, Cyrus makes keen use of social media to spread positive images of gender-nonconforming people and the families who love them.

Lindsay Lohan has revealed that she is ‘very much in love’ with Samantha Ronson – and that she considers herself bisexual, rather than a lesbian. Lindsay and Samantha have resisted publicly putting a label on their relationship, but when asked directly by the magazine, Lindsay denied being a lesbian. When quizzed whether she is bisexual, she replied: ‘Maybe. Yeah.’ And, more mysteriously, when asked if we might hear the sound of wedding bells in the future, Lohan said: ‘Eventually’, but whether that will be with a man or a woman, she said: ‘I don’t know’.

(born September 7, 1987) is an American actress, fashion model and singer. In August 2012, Wood identified herself as bisexual on Twitter. She later explained “It’s become more socially acceptable. With me, the reason why I came out is because I felt like now was the time to no longer be silent about it.”

(born Angelina Jolie Voight on June 4, 1975) is an American actress, filmmaker, and humanitarian. She is one of the biggest stars in Hollywood and has won an Academy Award, two Screen Actors Guild Awards, and three Golden Globe Awards. She has been recognized repeatedly for her humanitarian work including honors from the United Nations, an honorary damehood presented by Queen Elizabeth II, and was made a member of the prestigious Council on Foreign Relations. Angelina Jolie’s film career reached stratospheric heights after the huge success of the two Lara Croft: Tomb Raider films in 2001 and 2003. Her biggest blockbuster to date was as the lead in the 2014 Disney film Maleficent, which grossed over $758 million worldwide.

While filming for Tomb Raider in war-torn Cambodia, Jolie personally witnessed the effects of a humanitarian crisis for the 1st time. She was so moved by the experience that upon her return home, she became involved with United Nations High Commission for Refugees (UNHCR), paying her own expenses and sharing the same rustic working and living conditions as UNHCR field staff. She has been on missions to the world’s most troubled crisis areas and has been particularly affective at leveraging her celebrity spotlight to bring awareness to the plight of refugees. In 2012, after more than a decade of service as a UNHCR Goodwill Ambassador, Jolie was promoted to the rank of UN Special Envoy.

Over the years, Angelina Jolie has been romantically connected with both men and women. In a 2003 interview for “20/20”, when Barbara Walters asked Angelina Jolie if she was bisexual, she responded, “Of course.” Angelina Jolie married Brad Pitt in 2014. The two have 6 children together.

Julian is looking for a serious relationship with bisexual people now

Hi, I‘m Julian. I am Bisexual.

I live in the Fargo-Moorhead area in North Dakota. I first knew I was bi when I was very young. I didn’t really have a word for it, but I knew I was different. For a while, I hid “in the closet,” not even knowing what that was, but knowing that liking guys was something people like me (the weak, unpopular, freaky, dark kids) got beat up for really bad. For a long time, I repressed liking guys “that way.” In High School, I finally saw people do liked both the same and opposite genders and were public about it. I was so excited! I couldn’t believe that there were other people like me.
Fast forward to my junior year. Everything is good, I met this girl who was also bisexual we dated for a while but things didn’t work out (we are still friends if it matters to you). Next thing I know, I find myself head over heels for this gay boy in the drama club so I did the stupidest thing I could have possibly done – I joined. Don’t get me wrong it was fun and I even got a lead part my first play. Unfortunately for me, the boy I liked was not in that one.
Senior year, I finally am in a play with this boy and we start talking and flirting a little. Next thing I know, we are making out in a practice room. Taking this as a sign he’s interested, as I think most people would, I dropped off some chocolates in his locker for Valentine’s Day. He was not happy. He calls me and tells me that we are just friends. After this phone call, my heart is completely obliterated. I take the bus home (hour long ride by the way) and cry the whole way home. By the time I get home, my sisters know something’s wrong but don’t ask. My mother (a serious bible thumper), on the other hand, asks me what is wrong.
After telling her a total of (not exaggerating) 22 times that I’m fine – still crying the whole time – I finally snap and say what happened: “this guy I like at school rejected me. I was friend-zoned”
All she says is “a guy?!?”
Yes mom, a guy. I told her the name of the boy. My mother is in shock and just says his name.
“Huh? I thought you liked girls?”
“I do, I just like boys too”
The next day my step-dad asks me the same stuff: Who is he? Do i know him? But dad ends differently (he is a bit of a homophobe).
He says “I knew you were a fag!”
It was under his breath, but i still heard it. So now here I am: single, bisexual, and out of the closet. I work at convenience store in my home town. I play violin, guitar, piano and I sing. I will be going to college shortly. I don’t care what others think of my sexuality. I am happy!

What being bisexual means to me

Being Bisexual means that you love people not for their parts, but for the person inside. We are just lucky enough to be able to connect to both “sides.”

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We don’t choose which gender we love. It just happens.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

It’s hard to find the right person for a relationship who is also OK with me being bi. There is a lot of ignorance in the world.

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

Being able to say that’s my boyfriend or that’s my girlfriend and stand openly by my sexuality.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Some accept it. Others, well, lets not talk about them…

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

So long as you have at least one person you can truly trust, and who is there for you no matter what, I say you should go for it! The confidence they help you have will make a world of difference.

Contact:  www.bisexualsmeet.com/  Username: Julianwarriors18

Meet bisexual men in your local area

I‘m Brandon. I am Bisexual.

Hi, I’m Brandon and I live in Pennsylvainia, United States. I’m Hungarian, German, Irish, and Italian. My favorite color is purple and I’m Roman Catholic.

What being bisexual means to me

It means being apart of a diverse and unique community, one that values love.

What I would like the world to know about bisexuals

We are not confused, we just happen to be blessed with a sexuality that gives us a bigger ocean of fish to pick from!

What was your path to a bisexual identity?

I can remember instances that proved I like both guys and girls from when I was a little kid. When I was 12 I definatly knew I was bisexual. I first came out to my than friend Adam and my best friend Shawna at the same time when I was 14 and then to the rest of my friends the week after. I then came out to my Mother later that year while in the car. When I was 15 I came out to my Father and Grandmother and the rest of the school found out when I dated my first boyfriend Adam (remember him from earlier?) We broke up and I went on a dating spree with girls to try and get over him (it only made it worse) The longest relationship I’ve ever had was with my ex-girlfriend Scarlett, we dated for 6 months until I had a crisis with my sexual identity (I thought I may be gay) so after we broke up I identified as being gay, but eventually realized I am Bisexual, but leaning more towards men. Me and Scarlett are still best friends. Speaking about best friends, most of them are bisexual so I have tons of support.

What is the toughest thing about being bisexual?

Being hated by members of the straight and gay community…

What is the best thing about being bisexual?

I have more options for love. Also, it is great to have a large Bisexual community among the teens and young adults of my area.

How have other people in your life reacted to your bisexuality?

Most of my best friends and acquaintances are bisexual so it was easy for them to accept it. My mom, dad, step dad, grandma, a couple teachers, everyone at school, my friends parents, and my aunt’s and uncles all know and it’s no problem for some of them to accept.

What advice do you have for someone who thinks they may be bi or who is in the process of coming out as bi?

Just come out to your friends first because if they are true friends they’ll stay friends with you after. Next come out to your family (trust me , my Father is a conservative Republican and thought it was a sin to like the same sex, but when I told him he said he still loved me and has been able to accept it.)

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